“15 pea pods. 1 tsp of ranch. 1 oz of cashews. That’s my snack. No more, no less. This is what my calories allow for today.”
Have you ever done this?
How about when you went over your calorie count, had a few too many grams of sugar, or struggled to find the right food that fit your macros? Did you say…
“Forget it. I screwed up. I’m done for today. Tomorrow I’ll start over and get it right’.”
That all-or-none thinking plagues so many of us.
You know what I mean…
I want you to think back to what happens to you when you think this way.
I had an interview today with a reporter from Michigan.
Let me give you the back story...
About 1 ½ ago a got a letter. It looked like an official letter from the State of Minnesota wanting me to renew my business filing. It struck me as odd, as I was almost positive, I had already renewed.
Well, fast forward two days later. I am filling out the paperwork sent in the letter, only to find out they need a check. I don’t have checks for my business since it is all done online. So, I hop on the State’s website to see if I can renew online.
Sure enough, I can.
But even better, I already had renewed for that year…just like I thought.
I go back to the letter. I found it odd that the check wasn’t going to be made out to the state. I then proceed to look up the initials of who the check was to be made out to.
It was a private company. One that charged EXTRA to file a renewal for your business.
I was on a roll; losing weight, exercising, and making better food choices…
Then I started the downward spiral. One binged turned into a whole day, which turned into a whole week.
What is wrong with me? Why is this so hard? Why can't I just do this?
Let me tell you a little story...
I had a deep desire to be thin. At times, I would get to a healthy weight, but then a week later I was putting the pounds back on.
It's like I got to this goal and then I fell back into my old patterns. Then my actions did not fall in line with what I said I wanted.
I continued to sabotage myself, which lead to thinking something was wrong with me and I was just destined to be overweight but wanting to be thin.
Until I realized something...
No, in all these...
I was talking with a good friend that is in a masterclass with me for Christian women growing their businesses. We were discussing some recommendations that our instructor had given us. I told her that I was breaking some of the “rules”. My business was set up a little differently and I found that breaking these “rules” actually helped my business.
She was relieved. In her mind, she had to follow these rules to have a successful business. If she didn’t follow the “formula” then she wouldn’t succeed.
This is what I find with a lot of my clients. They have been taught that weight loss is a very specific formula. If you don’t follow a RIGHT formula (a.k.a. diet), you won’t lose weight much less keep it off.
God created each of us as an INDIVIDUAL. No two are the same.
That means each of my clients needs to find the...
“By faith Noah, when we was warned about the things NO ONE COULD FORSEE, respected God and built an ark…” Hebrews 11: 7a
Can we talk for a minute about the future?
Are you able to visualize it?
Do you know what will come?
I used to think the answer was no.
Now, don’t close your computer. Hear me out.
When I say that I believe we can see the future, I don’t mean all the details. I am not sure about where I will be living or what car I will be driving 20 years from now. I don’t even know if I’ll be on this earth anymore.
If I am still living, I know that I will maintain a healthy weight.
I know that I will be blessed beyond measure.
I know I will be helping women live more abundant lives.
I know that I will be loving my husband, kids, and the...
Many people look at me now and think, “Oh, there’s no way she used to struggle with her weight.”
But I did.
I know what it’s like to spend the whole day thinking about what I ate last, what I’m going to eat next, and if I “deserve” dessert.
I know what it’s like to join diet programs that never lasted and to binge on large amounts of food after eating “so well” all week.
But, I had a lot of large obstacles in the way.
I wasn’t able to find a weight loss program that centered around God’s word AND focus on my root problem.
No. The root problem is not the food or exercise.
So I decided to do the next best thing, I invested in a coaching program that helped me lose weight...
Oh busy. The common phrase we give our friends, family, acquaintances.
Rushing around all day can leave us feeling unsettled and restless. And well, neither of those feel very good. So why not use food to feel better?!
Plus, the busyness drains our energy, so we turn on automation mode and let our bad habits take over.
I find this to be a continual battle. Not only for myself and also for my clients.
It can make taking care of our temples quite a struggle.
And consistency… forget it. We have too much to do. It is easier to focus on the kids, work, cleaning, and the rest of the to-do list than your health and well-being.
Diabetes? Heart Disease? Cancer? Depression?
Maybe you’re not to these points yet, but...
What do you think?
Have you ever thought these about a friend or coworker?
Have you ever said, “It must be nice to be them since they don’t have to worry about their weight.”
This is what I have found out about “thin” women:
After talking to a lot of thin women, they just don’t stress about food. Actually, they hardly think about it.
BUT, they still are as lazy as we are. They still have their ups and downs (even about their bodies).
The only difference is they look at food differently.
Because for years you have used food to bust through the boredom and...
I didn’t think I complained that much, so I monitored myself for a day.
Those experts were right. Actually, I think it might be more.
I complain all day long.
It astounded me a little.
I consider myself a fairly positive person and yet…
I complained about having to shovel snow, my computer being too slow, picking up my son’s legos, and FB for not allowing me to underline, all within a 20-minute window.
Complaining feels like I am just talking about reality. But it’s not. It’s the story I’m telling myself about the world.
I could have admired the new snowfall, taken the moments for my computer to reboot to read, enjoyed making my own Lego creation or been in awe of that fact I can even communicate in a way for hundreds to see.
But I didn’t.
And that focus, it makes us feel terrible.
There is no upside to it.
Did you know this is the number one resolution made?
But only a few of you will succeed. And of those of you that do lose weight, MAYBE 5% of you will keep it off for good.
(I'm being generous with that percentage)
Most of you will gain back the weight. Usually, more than what you lost.
Kind of depressing…
Women come to me to lose weight. That’s my jam. I’ve done it, so they want to know all the “secrets”.
I usually start out asking them what they’ve tried in the past.
I get a whole laundry list…
The list goes on and on. While all of these are good ideas… none of them are the best way to lose weight with the intent to KEEP THE WEIGHT OFF.
The numbers don’t lie. ...