How many times have you called yourself fat in the last week? Last month? Last year?
How many times have you made “joking” remarks about how fat or disgusting you look to your friends or husband?
When you look in the mirror every morning, what do you say to yourself?
How about after an evening of overeating?
What are you telling yourself, even if it’s just in your head?
If it has anything to do with how disgusting and fat you are, you have a BIG problem.
Let me back up here for a minute. Let’s talk about the word fat.
Fat is adipose tissue in your body. It’s also a macronutrient.
But what it’s NOT is an identity.
You are NOT fat. You may have extra fat on your body, but that is NOT WHO YOU ARE.
Why is this such an important distinction to make?
If you think you’re fat, guess, what? You’ll take action to be fat.
“Ugh! I hate the holidays. I eat and eat and eat. There is so much good stuff. I just can’t help myself. Of course, I gain like 10 lbs. No, seriously. I will step on the scale after a party and be up 5. Then, I just think to myself, ‘who cares now’, and keep eating.”
I remember complaining this exact way a few years ago.
The holidays were a time I DREADED.
It was hard enough to lose weight during any normal time of the year, but then you stacked up three sugar-laden holidays back-to-back and I believed there was NO hope for fitting into those skinny jeans.
Now, as a coach, I hear this ALLLLLLL the time. Most women struggling with weight are either terrified, frustrated or dreading what is supposed to be a joyous time.
No, you don’t just come out and say this or even maybe realize it. That’s because you have become really good at pushing it away. It’s much...
What if you never feared what other people thought about you?
What if you had no problem with anyone judging you?
What if you were totally OK with them being wrong about you?
What if you took all criticism and negative remarks about yourself and learned from them?
Take a minute. Really think about this.
My guess, if you're anything like me, that your life would look drastically different.
Here are a few things I came up with if I could truly live this way.
Can you relate to this situation?
You eat healthy all week. Then on the weekend you go overboard allowing anything to go into your mouth.
By Sunday evening you’re saying,
“Ugh. You just keep messing up. You are such a failure. Just forget it. Who cares anyway?”
But what’s not typical, the women that choose NOT to believe these lies.
The women the dismiss this thinking are the ones that confident and just magnetic to be around.
How you talk to yourself determines how you feel about yourself. How your feel about yourself will determine how you will treat yourself AND others.
Two weeks ago, I explained why it’s vital that Christian women build their self-confidence.
You alone created my inner being. You knitted me together...
This often the answer I get when I ask clients what they want to start working on.
This is not an exaggeration either.
Can you start implementing all of these at once along with your busy life?
Yeah, me neither.
To top it all off, in the past we’ve tried to change everything all at once.
Then we made it mean we aren’t good at the things we tried. Or that we aren’t meant to lose weight and keep it off.
Two weeks ago I told you the “secret” to losing weight and keeping it off…
Last week, I outlined the very first and most important step to building self-confidence…
Trusting God really is the only step you need. Because if you trust God, you’ll start and you’ll keep going no matter what failures.
Last week’s I wrote about the MOST important thing I think most Christian women are lacking:
You can find that post here. You don’t have to read that post before reading this one, but it will help.
And, if you've been wondering how in the world you are you going to increase your self-confidence, I’ve got you. That’s what we are covering today and the next couple of weeks.
The hope is to start building your self-confidence muscle so you can show up as your true self, the one God created.
Let’s dive in.
Trusting yourself is a vital piece of self-confidence.
Do you believe that God is the ultimate, perfect creator?
At the same time, do you believe that you’re not good enough?
How do those two work together?
If God made you, then he made you perfect for your place in this...
These girls aren’t usually what others would call the “prettiest” or even the “smartest”.
The girls that I was jealous of were the ones that could get ANYONE talking and made everyone feel included. The ones that would stand up in front of a group and give a quick talk and would skip the part where their hands shake and voice cracks. The ones that could hop out on the dance floor and have the time of their life WITHOUT any liquid courage.
You know those girls, right?
The ones with…
There are so many misconceptions about self-confidence that I’d like to clear some up.
It’s the state of being secure in yourself and your abilities.
Put it in the Christian perspective; it’s the state of...
This is just my thought, but there is some evidence to back this.
But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtlety, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ. 2 Corinthians 11:3 KJV
Paul writes about how the gospel is simple, easy and it’s the enemy that makes it hard, complicated.
“For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.” 1 Corinthians 14:33e
So why do we get caught up in the confusion of complicating things?
What does this have to do with weight loss?
The majority of my time is spent simplifying things for my clients.
They (like I used to be) are so resistant to letting go and embracing the simpler way!
But, really ponder on this question… How can simple living be a benefit?
And it’s limiting what God can do through you and in you.
You don’t think you can lose weight and keep it off because you’ve never been able to do it in the past.
That is doubting God’s ability and distrusting yourself.
Who do you spend the most time with?
God and yourself.
Do you really want to spend the majority of your time doubting and distrusting who you spend the most time with?
Look what happens when you do this.
You become overweight, unhappy, anxious and feeling out of control.
But Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26
I can do ALL things through him who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13 (emphasis mine)
If God put the desire on your heart to lose weight and care for that temple, he’s already given you the way to do it.
Cut the skepticism.
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5: 16-18
If you rejoiced every day how different would your life look like?
How would you show up in this world differently?
I just wrapped up another challenge last week. It was an AMAZING 10-day journey with so many women.
There is so much to rejoice in and give thanks to God about.
Let me share a few with you:
My mindset has changed, and I have lost 4.2 pounds. Yeah me! ~RS
So much to celebrate from the past 9 days. I feel such an emotional/mental shift in my perspective toward food. I know this is going to take more work moving forward but I am thanking God for sending this information and Amanda into my life! And hey, 4-5 pound weight drop is a lot to celebrate too!!!! ~DS
I have enjoyed this so...