Can I just say, my clients, are amazing?! They have done some pretty spectacular things. All of them.
Not just a few.
Every. Single. One.
But "watching" my clients' self-sabotage, at times, is so PAINFUL for me. I just want to shake them awake. I wish I could just infuse them with the confidence I have for them.
I know they have to experience their own journey. I get that.
I understand I can't make decisions for them. But it's excruciating. It's like nails on a chalkboard. I know I can't control their actions (which really is a good thing; I get this), so now I use their lessons to help teach others.
It is a beautiful thing about how God can use anything to his glory!
So, let me cut to the chase here. I can tell when self-sabotage is coming for my clients. I want to share what I know with you. This way, you can be on the watch for your own self-sabotage and hopefully not fall into this trap the enemy is so good at catching...
A couple of weeks ago, I had a challenge going on in my private FB group. It was called "How NOT to gain 19 lbs during Covid-19". It was a fun challenge. I want to give a big shout out to all those who participated.
In that group, though, I introduced a "new" concept.
It was my 5 vitals.
These vitals are for everyone, but I think that Christian women need to take charge of these, to monitor them closely, and be careful when they start becoming less important.
As most of you know, I was a Registered Nurse before my momentous switch to being a full-time life coach. What is a fundamental task for any nurse? Vitals.
Vitals are the primary data I used to formulate predictions about the health of the patient. From this concept, I created my own set of vitals.
These vitals are a little different, though. They are self-assessed and measured. There are no fancy gadgets or tools needed. While it does have to do with your health, it's not about the immediate but the...
Shut-up and listen.
Nope. Not to me.
To your body and your mind.
Did you know that God gave us the perfect tool to help us know when our bodies need fuel?
It also has this fantastic feature that alerts us to the time when we should stop.
It’s highly sophisticated, using multiple messengers in our body. Yet, it is amazingly simple.
We’ve had it since birth (it’s innate). And, it has worked well for thousands of years, until recently.
But all of a sudden, very few people listen to it anymore.
Yes, I’m talking about hunger.
Instead of listening to our BODIES, now we follow books, videos, friends, or our thoughts and feelings. We use these to determine when and what to eat and when to stop eating.
Since we’ve haven’t been using our hunger to signal us to eat or not, we’ve miscalibrated it.
It doesn’t measure right anymore.
Our “hunger” now tells us to eat when we feel frustrated. Our “hunger” tells us to eat...
I’m coming up on a year.
One year ago I quit my “amazing” nursing job. (I use the word amazing in quotes because that is how many nurses described the position I held.)
So, I’m taking some time to reflect.
This has been a CHALLENGING exercise for me.
Reflection is something that is super uncomfortable. I can’t say I’ve ever really done it unless I’ve been forced to (for school or my employer).
I don’t like it because it feels slow and tedious.
I’m not good at slow.
Maybe you can relate? Have you ever said, “I’m too busy”? It just rolls off your tongue. Then someone asks you what you’ve been busy with and you draw a blank. Or what you do think of...
I don’t know about you, but I’ve been feeling pretty overwhelmed lately.
With my husband and kids being home 24/7, new information to sift through, and the day-by-day (sometimes hour-by-hour) planning because of the constant changes…
it’s made my head spin.
My head might be spinning, but here is what you won't find me doing:
I’m not going to blame or wish things were different.
It won't make me feel better nor will it help me make wiser choices.
I refuse to indulge in it.
Rather, I want to focus on my current circumstance (things I can not change) and what I do have control or influence over.
Here is my present situation:
3 kids at home. A husband working at home. An extra office space set up on our dining room table. Snow outside. Plenty of food in our fridge. My mom still living with us and available to help. Bins, draws and shelves full of craft projects. A sewing machine with dust on it. A house...
Things were just getting good, becoming easier…
Then I started over-eating again.
What is wrong with me? Why is this so hard?
This was me about 2 years ago. A lot of times people ask me about how I became a coach.
Let me tell you a little story about that.
I had a deep desire to be thin. I would get to a healthy weight, but then it seemed like a week later I was putting the pounds back on.
It's like I got to this goal and then I fell back into my old patterns. Then my actions did not fall in line with what I said I wanted.
Since, I seem to continue to sabotage myself, I thought something was wrong with me. I thought this may just be my struggle forever.
Until I realized something. God didn’t NOT want me to struggle forever. He wanted me to conquer, WITH HIM.
No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. Romans 8:37
See, for so long I was just focused on the food, the exercise,...
Weight loss can be a spiritual journey.
Have you ever thought about that?
It did not occur to me for a LOOOONG time. So, don’t worry, you’re not alone.
I was listening to the radio the other morning, and the announcer was talking about how he started on this journey to run a marathon purely out of selfishness. His wife wanted him to lose weight and as he put it, “I was tired of looking at myself in the mirror.”
So, he started running. But it turned into so much more than that very quickly. He put a purpose into his running by raising money for a local non-profit. Through this God opened his eyes to how He was working while he was running and trying to lose weight.
After hearing this, I realized, I too had a spiritual journey through weight loss. It is one of the most valuable journeys I have ever been on.
See, three years ago I was a mess. You wouldn’t have seen it on the...
If you didn’t read last week’s post, I highly suggest you go and take a look.
Last week, I discussed how to start cleaning up your thinking; to start being aware of what is going on in your mind.
Here is a snippet from the post:
The thoughts in your brain will create the reality of your life. Life is made of internal and external. The external is the direct reflection of the internal. I suggest you start there.
As someone thinks within himself, so he is. Proverbs 23:7
So, I wanted to expand on how the internal is reflected on the external. And, since I coach a lot on weight issues, I’ll use that as an example today.
First, if you’ve never heard of Dr. Caroline Leaf, I highly recommend her work. She is a cognitive neuroscientist with a PhD in Communication Pathology specializing in Neuropsychology. Basically, she is one smart cookie. What is fascinating is that her work is confirming scripture. ...
Halloween is not a holiday.
I know I’m going to ruffle some feathers today. But ultimately, this post IS NOT about whether or not you should celebrate Halloween. That’s not my point.
But if you want to get to the good point, you’ll have to hear me out about Halloween….
We don’t celebrate Halloween at our house. We haven’t for years. My kids don’t dress up. They don’t go trick or treating. We don’t have parties or decorations.
We DO have a family fun night on the 31st though (so don't worry, my kids are not deprived).
It’s not because I stand on some morally high ground and oppose the “holiday” (Even though I don’t understand why you want to celebrate ghosts, scary monsters and skeletons. I bet you’ve never seen a dead body with its skeleton coming out. If you did, I bet you wouldn’t want to use it as...
Things that DON’T make you fat….
Things that DO make you fat….
This was not originally my idea. I got this post idea from Jordan Syatt. Just didn’t want to plagiarize. But I did add a few of my own items to the lists.
I LOVE doing consults with potential clients. It is my FAVORITE thing ever. I love it because you can just “see” (I guess actually I hear since I do them over the phone) their minds working to give all the excuses as to why they are the weight they are currently.
AND WE ALL DO THIS!!
Jesus replied with this story: “A man prepared a great feast and sent out many invitations. When the banquet was ready, he sent his servant to tell the...
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