I was on a roll; losing weight, exercising, and making better food choices…
Then I started the downward spiral. One binged turned into a whole day, which turned into a whole week.
What is wrong with me? Why is this so hard? Why can't I just do this?
Let me tell you a little story...
I had a deep desire to be thin. At times, I would get to a healthy weight, but then a week later I was putting the pounds back on.
It's like I got to this goal and then I fell back into my old patterns. Then my actions did not fall in line with what I said I wanted.
I continued to sabotage myself, which lead to thinking something was wrong with me and I was just destined to be overweight but wanting to be thin.
Until I realized something...
No, in all these...
There's one thing stopping you from losing your weight.
Wanna know what it is?
It's a lie. A lie believed to be true.
Something like, "Forget it. I can't lose weight."
The moment you think "I can't" is the moment you have to STOP. You need to stop and understand what's really going on.
You need some Truth.
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil." (Proverbs 3:5-7)
The truth: God gave you a gift of free will. Just like Eve had a choice in the garden, we still have a choice every minute of...
The hardest part of losing weight, even maintaining my healthy weight is being still.
Yes, you read that right.
Maybe you’re a little confused right now, saying, “I thought I needed to move more. Why would I want to be still?”
I’m not talking about my body, even though it transfers there.
I’m talking about my thoughts.
"Be still and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10
The stillness of the mind.
What I wouldn’t give to let my thoughts rest.
You know the struggle.
There are many memes out there about this…
“I started making some lunch, walked out of the kitchen, sat on the couch, and thought, ‘Wow. I’m hungry. I should start making some lunch.’”
"I don’t have ducks. Or a row. I have squirrels, and they’re everywhere."
While there may be some physical or hormonal changes that sometimes contribute to disordered thinking, there is another influence that many don’t talk...
A question I get asked a lot is, “How do I stick to my plan/ eat well when I go on vacation or have events?”
When my clients ask me about this, I usually find out it comes down to this line of thinking…
“I don’t want to plan because I don’t want to say no to anything I might really WANT to eat/drink. I want to be able to enjoy myself.”
Can you relate? I can.
Believe me, when I say, I still struggle with this mentality.
Here is what happens in my head during parties/events/ vacations:
I’m going to just say...
Three years ago, I found myself "skinny," but at the toll of being mentally "cray-cray" (I don't know if I'm cool enough to use this word, but I thought it would be fun).
I had jumped on the keto bandwagon. The only amazing part of this diet was that I got to eat as much avocado, peanut butter, and coconut oil my heart desired…like a dream came true…
But not really…
I had started the diet in May. Everything was good. The kids were still in school, I had a routine, and there weren't many celebrations to contend with.
Then summer hit. The lure of ice cream treats or a cold brew at the end of an evening was too much. My attention was focused on ways I could leave myself a couple of carbs just so I could have a lick of a potato chip.
My mind started to become consumed.
"Did I hit my fat goal for today? I had those blueberries. Maybe that was too many carbs. What if I kicked myself out of keto? Now, I screwed up! I might as well have the whole...
Can I just say, my clients, are amazing?! They have done some pretty spectacular things. All of them.
Not just a few.
Every. Single. One.
But "watching" my clients' self-sabotage, at times, is so PAINFUL for me. I just want to shake them awake. I wish I could just infuse them with the confidence I have for them.
I know they have to experience their own journey. I get that.
I understand I can't make decisions for them. But it's excruciating. It's like nails on a chalkboard. I know I can't control their actions (which really is a good thing; I get this), so now I use their lessons to help teach others.
It is a beautiful thing about how God can use anything to his glory!
So, let me cut to the chase here. I can tell when self-sabotage is coming for my clients. I want to share what I know with you. This way, you can be on the watch for your own self-sabotage and hopefully not fall into this trap the enemy is so good at catching...
A couple of weeks ago, I had a challenge going on in my private FB group. It was called "How NOT to gain 19 lbs during Covid-19". It was a fun challenge. I want to give a big shout out to all those who participated.
In that group, though, I introduced a "new" concept.
It was my 5 vitals.
These vitals are for everyone, but I think that Christian women need to take charge of these, to monitor them closely, and be careful when they start becoming less important.
As most of you know, I was a Registered Nurse before my momentous switch to being a full-time life coach. What is a fundamental task for any nurse? Vitals.
Vitals are the primary data I used to formulate predictions about the health of the patient. From this concept, I created my own set of vitals.
These vitals are a little different, though. They are self-assessed and measured. There are no fancy gadgets or tools needed. While it does have to do with your health, it's not about the immediate but the...
Shut-up and listen.
Nope. Not to me.
To your body and your mind.
Did you know that God gave us the perfect tool to help us know when our bodies need fuel?
It also has this fantastic feature that alerts us to the time when we should stop.
It’s highly sophisticated, using multiple messengers in our body. Yet, it is amazingly simple.
We’ve had it since birth (it’s innate). And, it has worked well for thousands of years, until recently.
But all of a sudden, very few people listen to it anymore.
Yes, I’m talking about hunger.
Instead of listening to our BODIES, now we follow books, videos, friends, or our thoughts and feelings. We use these to determine when and what to eat and when to stop eating.
Since we’ve haven’t been using our hunger to signal us to eat or not, we’ve miscalibrated it.
It doesn’t measure right anymore.
Our “hunger” now tells us to eat when we feel frustrated. Our “hunger” tells us to eat...
I’m coming up on a year.
One year ago I quit my “amazing” nursing job. (I use the word amazing in quotes because that is how many nurses described the position I held.)
So, I’m taking some time to reflect.
This has been a CHALLENGING exercise for me.
Reflection is something that is super uncomfortable. I can’t say I’ve ever really done it unless I’ve been forced to (for school or my employer).
I don’t like it because it feels slow and tedious.
I’m not good at slow.
Maybe you can relate? Have you ever said, “I’m too busy”? It just rolls off your tongue. Then someone asks you what you’ve been busy with and you draw a blank. Or what you do think of...
I don’t know about you, but I’ve been feeling pretty overwhelmed lately.
With my husband and kids being home 24/7, new information to sift through, and the day-by-day (sometimes hour-by-hour) planning because of the constant changes…
it’s made my head spin.
My head might be spinning, but here is what you won't find me doing:
I’m not going to blame or wish things were different.
It won't make me feel better nor will it help me make wiser choices.
I refuse to indulge in it.
Rather, I want to focus on my current circumstance (things I can not change) and what I do have control or influence over.
Here is my present situation:
3 kids at home. A husband working at home. An extra office space set up on our dining room table. Snow outside. Plenty of food in our fridge. My mom still living with us and available to help. Bins, draws and shelves full of craft projects. A sewing machine with dust on it. A house...