I was on a roll; losing weight, exercising, and making better food choices…
Then I started the downward spiral. One binged turned into a whole day, which turned into a whole week.
What is wrong with me? Why is this so hard? Why can't I just do this?
Let me tell you a little story...
I had a deep desire to be thin. At times, I would get to a healthy weight, but then a week later I was putting the pounds back on.
It's like I got to this goal and then I fell back into my old patterns. Then my actions did not fall in line with what I said I wanted.
I continued to sabotage myself, which lead to thinking something was wrong with me and I was just destined to be overweight but wanting to be thin.
Until I realized something...
No, in all these...
I was talking with a good friend that is in a masterclass with me for Christian women growing their businesses. We were discussing some recommendations that our instructor had given us. I told her that I was breaking some of the “rules”. My business was set up a little differently and I found that breaking these “rules” actually helped my business.
She was relieved. In her mind, she had to follow these rules to have a successful business. If she didn’t follow the “formula” then she wouldn’t succeed.
This is what I find with a lot of my clients. They have been taught that weight loss is a very specific formula. If you don’t follow a RIGHT formula (a.k.a. diet), you won’t lose weight much less keep it off.
God created each of us as an INDIVIDUAL. No two are the same.
That means each of my clients needs to find the...
“By faith Noah, when we was warned about the things NO ONE COULD FORSEE, respected God and built an ark…” Hebrews 11: 7a
Can we talk for a minute about the future?
Are you able to visualize it?
Do you know what will come?
I used to think the answer was no.
Now, don’t close your computer. Hear me out.
When I say that I believe we can see the future, I don’t mean all the details. I am not sure about where I will be living or what car I will be driving 20 years from now. I don’t even know if I’ll be on this earth anymore.
If I am still living, I know that I will maintain a healthy weight.
I know that I will be blessed beyond measure.
I know I will be helping women live more abundant lives.
I know that I will be loving my husband, kids, and the...
Many people look at me now and think, “Oh, there’s no way she used to struggle with her weight.”
But I did.
I know what it’s like to spend the whole day thinking about what I ate last, what I’m going to eat next, and if I “deserve” dessert.
I know what it’s like to join diet programs that never lasted and to binge on large amounts of food after eating “so well” all week.
But, I had a lot of large obstacles in the way.
I wasn’t able to find a weight loss program that centered around God’s word AND focus on my root problem.
No. The root problem is not the food or exercise.
So I decided to do the next best thing, I invested in a coaching program that helped me lose weight...
Oh busy. The common phrase we give our friends, family, acquaintances.
Rushing around all day can leave us feeling unsettled and restless. And well, neither of those feel very good. So why not use food to feel better?!
Plus, the busyness drains our energy, so we turn on automation mode and let our bad habits take over.
I find this to be a continual battle. Not only for myself and also for my clients.
It can make taking care of our temples quite a struggle.
And consistency… forget it. We have too much to do. It is easier to focus on the kids, work, cleaning, and the rest of the to-do list than your health and well-being.
Diabetes? Heart Disease? Cancer? Depression?
Maybe you’re not to these points yet, but...
What do you think?
Have you ever thought these about a friend or coworker?
Have you ever said, “It must be nice to be them since they don’t have to worry about their weight.”
This is what I have found out about “thin” women:
After talking to a lot of thin women, they just don’t stress about food. Actually, they hardly think about it.
BUT, they still are as lazy as we are. They still have their ups and downs (even about their bodies).
The only difference is they look at food differently.
Because for years you have used food to bust through the boredom and...
I didn’t think I complained that much, so I monitored myself for a day.
Those experts were right. Actually, I think it might be more.
I complain all day long.
It astounded me a little.
I consider myself a fairly positive person and yet…
I complained about having to shovel snow, my computer being too slow, picking up my son’s legos, and FB for not allowing me to underline, all within a 20-minute window.
Complaining feels like I am just talking about reality. But it’s not. It’s the story I’m telling myself about the world.
I could have admired the new snowfall, taken the moments for my computer to reboot to read, enjoyed making my own Lego creation or been in awe of that fact I can even communicate in a way for hundreds to see.
But I didn’t.
And that focus, it makes us feel terrible.
There is no upside to it.
Did you know this is the number one resolution made?
But only a few of you will succeed. And of those of you that do lose weight, MAYBE 5% of you will keep it off for good.
(I'm being generous with that percentage)
Most of you will gain back the weight. Usually, more than what you lost.
Kind of depressing…
Women come to me to lose weight. That’s my jam. I’ve done it, so they want to know all the “secrets”.
I usually start out asking them what they’ve tried in the past.
I get a whole laundry list…
The list goes on and on. While all of these are good ideas… none of them are the best way to lose weight with the intent to KEEP THE WEIGHT OFF.
The numbers don’t lie. ...
And hard work stinks.
It’s not all rainbows and daisies. Often there are no butterflies.
There is just YOU and the work that you don’t feel like doing.
Taking a nap sounds better. Maybe some Netflix or a little shopping.
A phone call to vent to a friend would be nice.
Definitely, a glass of wine and a big ‘ole bowl of ice cream would make it all easier.
But then there are the results.
The hard work turns into the energy to run around with your kids…
the joy of putting on two sizes smaller pants…
the self-confidence to start that bible study…
the connection of those intimate evenings with your husband.
Six months later you are living all the blessings of the hard work.
My kids get so excited to share what they received, what they want, and what they are “sure” they are getting next.
Well, this year I know what I want and what I’m getting.
I give it to myself every year now. It is the gift that keeps giving.
It is one of the best gifts I’ve ever received.
I want to share part of the definition of a friend according to Urbandictionary.com:
“A friend is someone you love and who loves you, someone you respect and who respects you, someone whom you trust and who trusts you. A friend is honest and makes you want to be honest, too. A friend is loyal.”
Learning to love and respect myself has been tough work, but worth it. Now I can trust that what I say I will...