The Secret to Gaining Confidence Quickly

Uncategorized Mar 09, 2020

OK friends.

A lot has been covered the last couple of weeks.

If you haven't been following along, the last 4 blog posts have been focused on self-confidence.

First, I talked about why self-confidence important and what it has to do with God. Find that blog here

Then I dove into how to build self-confidence.  First was building trust in yourself by following through.  Check it out here

Next was having a great opinion about yourself. Get it here.

Last, was letting go of what other people think about you.  Read it here.

One thing I want to note, it is much easier to have someone to walk with you on this journey to gaining self-confidence.  That is why I have a coach.  Having someone there to help you see what you are blinded to in that moment is priceless. 

Now, let me give you the best piece of advice that I was ever given around self-confidence.


I’m going to share a post that I already published this last Christmas.  Some of you may have read these words, but some of you might of have missed it. 

This is for those who missed it.

I want to share part of the definition of a friend according to

“A friend is someone you love and who loves you, someone you respect and who respects you, someone whom you trust and who trusts you. A friend is honest and makes you want to be honest, too. A friend is loyal.”

This last year, I learned to love and respect myself.  I can trust that what I say I will do; I will follow through.  I’m honest with myself and aware that I’m not perfect, nor am I supposed to be.


It goes on to say, “A friend is someone who not only doesn't care if you're ugly or boring, but doesn't even think about it; someone who forgives you no matter what you do, and someone who tries to help you even when they don't know how. A friend is someone who tells you if you're being stupid, but who doesn't make you feel stupid.”

I’m working on this one.  But I’m learning to love how I look, even if others might think I’m “ugly”.  I don’t think what I spend my time doing is boring. 

Everyday, I give myself grace and encouragement even when I have been stupid.


There’s more, “A friend is someone who will come with you when you have to do boring things like watch bad recitals, go to stuffy parties, or wait in boring lobbies.”

This portion really got me thinking.  How many of us can just sit with ourselves even in boring situations?  Do you know how to enjoy and entertain yourself with out your phone?  This is a lost art, don’t you think?  I go back to the verses,

“Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances,” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18a

These three things are my go to now for when I’m bored standing in line, waiting in traffic or washing dishes....


Last part that I want to point out, “A friend is someone for whom you're willing to change your opinions.”

My opinions, judgement and thoughts about so many things have dramatically shifted.  I use to have the most judgement for myself and the worst opinion too. This year, I was willing to change it.  Change it for the sake of not only myself, but my family.


Think about being a friend.  You learned to trust them when they follow through.  You have a high opinion of them.  And, you don’t let what other people think about your friend affect your relationship with them.  That is how you have confidence in that relationship.

So, be a friend to yourself. 

Gain that confidence. 

Then, go out and be the wonderful you that God made!


PS. Do you want gain self-confidence and ditch the weight?  Let's do it!  Sign up for a FREE coaching consult HERE.


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