I was soooooo jealous in high school.
Seriously. I was a mess.
Honestly, I can’t even say it was just high school. It followed me well into college and a little beyond.
I was especially jealous of a particular breed of girls.
These girls weren’t usually what other would call the “prettiest”. They weren’t the smartest either.
The girls that I was jealous of were the ones that could go up and talk to any male and not even bat an eye. The ones that would stand up in front of the class and give a quick talk totally skipping the part where their hands shake and voice cracks. The ones that could hop out on the dance floor and have the time of their life without any liquid courage.
You know those girls, right?
They had what I wanted so badly….
I look back and wish I could have given the gift of self-confidence to myself back then.
I wish I could have given myself what I know and have now.
There are so many misconceptions about self-confidence.
It’s time to clear a few things up.
What is self-confidence?
It’s the state of being secure in yourself and your abilities.
Put it in the Christian perspective; it’s the state being secure in who God made you and your God given abilities.
If you look at it from the Christian perspective, it’s trusting God and His creation.
Trusting what God made = self-confidence
What isn’t self-confidence?
It’s not self-absorption. Someone that is self-absorbed only thinks only of themselves because they don’t trust what God made. Most of the time they are too worried about fixing His creation into some sort of perfectionistic ideal.
It’s not arrogance. Arrogance is thinking you are better or greater than someone else. A self-confident person recognizes that God made them amazing but ALSO everyone around them. All of what God made is worthy and has a plan but arrogance wouldn’t recognize this.
There is a big problem in the female Christian community that I want to bring your attention to because I see it all the time.
Christian women don’t know how to be self-confident. I would even venture to say they FEAR it.
They have good reasons to fear it.
The word confidence has been tied to selfishness, conceit and pride. Some people in the church even frown upon, gossip and judge women with confidence. A woman might even be told, “You need to be more humble.”
But humility and self-confidence are not exclusive. At their core, their inclusive of each other.
True self-confidence is not selfishness, conceit, pride or a lack of humility. That is Satan talking. The enemy has been twisting confidence and succeeding at destroying it for so many Christian women.
Why would Satan go to all this work of breaking down self-confidence?
Well, look at the benefits of self-confidence.
As you can see, this is very threatening for the enemy.
Of course, he will do what he could to attack it.
So, over the next three weeks I will be breaking down how to build self-confidence and what that could mean for your life.
I pray that you continue to come back over the next couple of weeks and really work on your self-confidence. It is one of the greatest gifts that you could give others, God and…
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