Brand new year.
Brand new you?
You want to... lose 50 lbs, exercise 30 minutes a day, clean out the basement, re-decorate the living room, volunteer an hour each week at church, add that extra project at work, stop fighting with your husband, spend 5 hours with the kids each day, bring a home cooked meal to church member each week, learn how to play the guitar, and schedule a date nights with your friends each month....
And you're going to figure out how to do this things in the next two weeks.
Real life starts to happen. School starts up again, work gets stressful, kids become sick and the credit card bill from December is due.
Forget the goals. Those seem way more stressful than the life you currently have.
You’re not alone in this.
So many of us do this. Not only do we have to many goals at once, but we also have REALLY big goals.
Let me tell you about last year. I started the year with not...
We all have them. You know…
Those tough relationships.
They are draining. Mostly mentally, but sometimes physically also. Most of that energy is spent wishing they were some how different. We just want them to be easier to get along with.
But they’re not. They probably won’t change. And all that energy you’re spending wishing, wanting, hoping, is just wasted.
Do you wish you could just feel better about these relationships?
This is what you’re signing up for if you want to feel better; you don't get to change the other person. You can only change yourself and do the hard work of managing your thoughts.